9 Secrets of Self Confident People

1. Take an honest inventory of your insecurities: Sit down and really listen to that inner voice. What does it say about you? From regrets, weight, poor relationships and feeling unworthy, take an inventory by writing these thoughts down. Recognize that they are just insecurities.
2. Do not allow yourself to feel inferior: Fight against the urge to believe that the others around you are simply better than you. They are not. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
3. Nobody is perfect: No matter how confident a person seems, nobody is perfect. In fact, it is our imperfections that make us unique. Stop focusing on perfection and instead learn to love yourself for your flaws.
4. Celebrate your successes: No matter who you are, there is something that you are good at. Take the time to find the things that you enjoy and are good at doing and then do them. If you have a green thumb, grow a garden and allow yourself to enjoy it. If you have a way with words, write poems or cards for the people you love and don't be afraid to give them out. This is a great opportunity to explore new interests and activities.
5. Always be grateful: Never forget to be thankful for what you have. Taking a moment during the day to consciously think of the things in your life you are thankful for is important.
6. Don't be negative: Self pity just makes things worse. When you are feeling negative, make an effort to think positively. Hating yourself or your life is self defeating. If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about your job, take a few minutes to think of three positive things about it. Do this every time you have a negative thought. You may be surprised at how quickly you become a positive person and thinker.
7. Be gracious when you're complimented: Recognize that when people give you a compliment, they mean it, so be gracious and accept the compliment. Don't just shrug compliments off.
8. Smile: The physical act of smiling can actually make you feel better, so smile, a lot. Smile at yourself, smile at others and smile at nothing in particular. It is a great way to feel better.
9. Until you feel it, fake it: Just like the act of smiling can make you feel better, acting confident and happy will help you be happy and confident. Make an effort to be the happy and confident person you have always wanted to be. In no time at all, you will notice there is less pretending to be confident and more just being confident.

Contributed By:
Prof. D. P. Chattopadhyay
(Globsyn Business School)

Source: Trans4mind:an e-magazine